1. A common practice used is to discuss the day’s Highs and lows. This can be done at a particular time each day. It can be during dinner or right after school. Going around in a circle allows for equality, and a sense of control. Each person shares a high and low aspect of the day ( good or bad event or the day). Naturally, people can pass on their turn, if they want.
  2. Bedtime routine with a “Positive Affirmations on a Pillow” –  We would take a pillow case and with a permanent magic marker, we would write the positive traits (preferably not physical ) on it. Each pillow case is for one person. So for example, the pillow case might have beautiful words on it such as: talkative, strong-minded, warm, good listener, etc
  3. At bedtime, there can be exchange on what traits were noticed that day. It is great to begin with the child’s self-reflection to build self-confidence/self-appraisal. After, the adult can remark on the child’s strengths and describe the “instance where you caught them being their Best Self.”   This is  a great way to encourage positive sweet dreams….. For some who are less verbal etc, people can share a song of the day to express how they feel or one that just “stuck in your head for that day.”  Over time, the Match or the family had a playlist of their families songs and a pattern or theme might appear. Ultimately it represents the family life….
  4. Sharing gratitude and a gratitude journal. A practice of gratitude or noticing “good things is so beneficial for the well-being and also for brain functioning. Gratitude creates grace and a light=heartedness and surprisingly breeds more gratitude and positivity in your life.  Matches or families can share 3 or more things you are grateful for on a daily basis or when they see/talk to each other. It can be as basic as: I am grateful for toilet paper 😊, I am grateful for the rain that nourishes the earth/plants or it can be as profound as I am grateful for my job, family and friends.
  5. Joint Drawing activity in silence – you can take a picture or a canvas and decide to create a mutual picture. Each person will take a turn to create something simple in silence and without judgement or comment from anyone around. For instance, someone might start to build an image of a house and it is turned into another image. This activity can demonstrate how in sync or compatible one is with one another.  Also the activity can demonstrate how people can be adaptable and find humor.
  6. Vision board- using old magazine, newspaper, glue and a poster board or paper. A vision board allows people to dream, inspire and think in the future. You can pick images or words that represent what you hope for. I have has couples create one vision board together or individual vision boards. Nonetheless, it is an opportunity to dream and share, not to mention that “ you are putting your good intentions out into the Universe for it to manifest.”